Battle of the Sexes Note: The youth really got into this. The girls made their own shirts mostly in pink an black with glitter lettering and the guys went out and bought a bunch of "tanks" (a.k.a. wife beaters) mostly in black. It was all in good spirit.    9:00 Come up with team names/Chant!   9:15 Rules & Expectations    Your cell phone is only good as a paper weight for this lock-in. If you can't limit its usage turn it in. You don't have any other friends beside the ones here tonight and your parents are glad to get rid of you. They aren't calling. Oh yea, don't use your phone for a light. No swearing/profanity - Believe it or not this category includes inappropriate sexual discussions. No "extra curricular" activities permitted. For example, no sucking face with anyone. No roughhousing. Yes, this includes keeping someone else's property from them by force, sneaky-ness or running away from them.  Do not leave the Church. If the area you are in is not climate controlled you are outside the church. No cheating. If you are looking for a way around a rule, you are probably about to cheat and had best not attempt any deviations until you reach saint hood. Snacks and drinks are allowed in the Youth/Activity Centers only. Do not open or go around locked doors. If you find yourself climbing through a wall, window, non-door opening or have to do anything to a door that is more than just gently opening it by the knob, you are probably attempting to go around or open a locked door. Stay out of the rafters, organ loft. If you have to climb to get where you want to go and then you feel yourself having to balance on a beam high above the floor, chances are you are in the rafters. Sleep only in designated sleeping rooms. No hiding, food or drink in designated sleeping rooms. Go only where you are asked. No sneaking off to do your own thing. If we are playing a game and you're just sitting and watching/talking alone with a friend or friends, it better be in the Youth/Activity Center. Respect the church property. Do not touch the Drums, Piano, any musical instrument, spot light, or electronic equipment in the building. If it looks like it might be fun to play with and you are not in the Youth Center, Activity Center or Gym don't mess with it. Do not dangle, hang or jump off of anything. Why do I even have to say this&ldots; Oh yea! Because someone will do it if I don't.   Expectations are as follows: Participate as you can Respect others and Listen Clean up after yourself The leader may randomly unlock a door from time to time.   9:30 Team Competition I Intelligence, Intuition, Hand/Eye Coordination   Buzz Fizz Scoring: The first team to correctly finish receives 10 points - bonus available Needed: Reference (don't use this while playing the game): Buzz Numbers 5, 10, 15, 20, 25, 30, 35, 40, 45, 50 Fizz Numbers 7, 14, 17, 21, 27, 28, 35, 37, 42, 47, 49    Say: Tonight is all about competition. It's Female vs. Male! We are going to start out with an intellectual challenge! Your gender will form a circle and simply count from 1 to 50 as a group. However, the catch is that at all multiples of five you must say "Buzz!" and at all multiples of seven and at any number that also contains the name seven, you must say "Fizz!". If the group messes up, it's the opposite sex's turn to start over again. Score one point for each correct Buzz or Fiz. Before each group starts, the opposite sex gathers near to watch and listens as the active group recites their chant. If you count to 50 in under 2 minutes your team gets 10 points (We ended up lining the two teams up across from each other and alternating counting - boy, girl, boy, girl - until one of the teams missed.)   Blind Recognition Scoring: Score one point for each correct guess Needed: Blindfolds/masks Say: This is a game of intuition. The two teams will huddle together opposite each other. The girls will each take a turn to be blindfolded for the first round. They must name whoever is sent to them by using any sense other than sight. The boys may choose any player on their team to go forward and be identified. It could be the same person many times or different each time. They can choose to talk and disguise their voice or remain silent. A sponsor will be right at hand to prevent any inappropriate touching. We'll keep score of the correct answers. After all the girls have gone through it will be the boys turn. The team with the most correct answers wins! (Fit any other game here if your group doesn't know each other very well.)   Golf-darts Scoring: Score 10 points for each made putt Needed: Golf Putter, a cup, flute darts and Nerf darts Set up: Set up in the center of the room a 10 foot long putting practice green. Use tables flat on the floor to maintain boundaries 10 feet from the green on each side (20 ft total separation). Say: This is a hand eye coordination game. There will be two captains from each team. Captains will get 5 chances to make a 10 foot putt. We'll be alternating putts boy/girl. Each team will line up 10 feet away from the green on opposite sides. If a captain makes the putt the opposite sex turns their backs and gives the scoring team a free shot at them with the flute darts. The catch, teams can use flute darts to deflect the ball from the cup or just fire at the opposite sex to distract their deflection. No HEAD shots please. After 5 tries each, new captains will be chosen. Place a chair flat on the cup to keep kids from moving the cup with the darts.   11:00 Lesson Learn to Work the Toilet Seat Say: The battle of the sexes rages on, but need this be the case for Christians? Maybe so, but tonight we are going to attempt to bridge the gap helping you better relate to each other. As teenagers progress through the adolescent years, they learn to develop mature relationships with the opposite sex. To illustrate the differences in thinking among girls and guys, we're going to do an experiment "Family Feud" style. I'll have one of you leave the room and ask a set of questions o be answered as quickly as possible, then allow the other back to answer the same questions as quickly as possible. I'd like two volunteers-a guy and a girl. Get a "scribe" to quickly write down answers - Let the girl (or guy) leave the room, and read the following situations to the guy in front of the group. Let the group note how the guy answered or reacted to the situation. Now let the girl in and read her the same situation. How did she react? Ask the group to point out the differences they noticed between how each answered. What does this say about girl versus guy communication?   1. You've just got cut from the swim (or whatever) team and your best friends made it. How do you react? 2. You've just gotten a low (almost failing) grade on the hardest exam you've ever taken. How are you feeling? 3. You just found out that there is a girl (or guy) that likes you. What will you do about it? 4. Your sister or brother hits you hard-and I mean hard. What are you going to do? 5. A kid at your school calls you a name. What are you going to do about it? 6. How do you leave the toilet seat, usually up or down in your home? Break into small guy and girl groups and hand out leader sheets. Bring the Small groups back together and discuss everyone's answers.   LEADER SHEET ASK: When can you first remember wondering about the differences between the opposite sex? __ Before elementary school (Pre-K to kindergarten) __ Early elementary school (grades 1 to 4) __ Later elementary school (grades 5 to 6) __ Junior high __ High school   ASK: What one word do you think best describes the opposite sex? List at least 4 clean words. _____________________________ _____________________________ _____________________________ _____________________________ Below are a few statements about girls and guys in relationships. Put a F by the ones you feel apply more to girls/females and an M by those that apply more to guys/males. __ Cheating in a relationship __ Pressuring to get more physical __ Preferring to spend time with friends __ Being possessive __ Having higher standards __ Being sensitive __ Being competitive __ Being jealous __ Being domineering __ Wanting to get serious __ Being committed to God __ Leading the other person on __ Being romantic __ Being demanding __ Being argumentative Decide how many are cultural and how many are God-given.    ASK: What do you think? Can girls and guys be friends without getting romantically involved with each other? __ Nope-it's too hard __ Could happen, but it's not likely __ Probably could happen, depending on both people __ Definitely-sometimes those are the best friendships to have This has always been a topic of discussion between young men and women. Discuss what kinds of friendships Christian young men and women can have and how these can be developed.   ASK: If you could ask all members of the opposite sex a question that has always puzzled you, what would it be? List 3 clean questions. 1.   2.    3.   ASK: Write a brief description of what each of the following verses has to say about relating to the opposite sex? Ephesians 4:2 with all lowliness and meekness, with patience, forbearing one another in love, ______________________________________________   Ephesians 4:32 and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. ______________________________________________   Ephesians 4:25 Therefore, putting away falsehood, let everyone speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another. ______________________________________________   Ephesians 5:1 Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. ______________________________________________   Ephesians 4:29 Let no evil talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for edifying, as fits the occasion, that it may impart grace to those who hear. ______________________________________________    Ephesians 6:18 Pray at all times in the Spirit, with all prayer and supplication. To that end keep alert with all perseverance, making supplication for all the saints, ______________________________________________ END OF LEADER SHEET   Come back together as a large group and share all he answers. What different interpretations did the males and females have?   CLOSE Say: There will always be many questions and concerns about the opposite sex, we discussed quite a few here tonight. There are both differences and similarities between the sexes and some of you will find it challenging to have "friendship" relationships with the opposite sex that won't end up romantically based. Some parting questions for you to ponder: What does the media say about girl and guy relationships? How often do friends in movies or TV shows end up in dating relationships? Can this transition ruin friendships? What TV shows or movies have you seen where friendships turn into romantic relationships? What happened?   11:30 Team Competition II Underground Church for Battle of the Sexes Scoring: Score 10 points for each round your team wins Players: Guy and Girl Underground Churches, Followers, and Guy and Girl Guards. The "Church" (a group of two) for each gender is given a set amount of time to go and hide and remain in one place for the duration of the round.  The Guards will become the Churches for the next round. (Send the churches one at a time to avoid giving away where the other team is hiding.)  The "Guards" try to keep the opposite gender church from growing.  The Guards job is to tag Followers of the opposite sex & toss them outside the building in the Courtyard ONLY.  If a Follower is tagged they must surrender and be escorted out of the nearest Courtyard door. Once the Follower is outside, their job is to find a way back in, they can't just sit outside and chat. Finding a way in is made difficult because the unlocked door will change from time to time. (If the weather is bad use a "jail" and keep only 6 prisoners at a time. When 7 is caught 1 leaves.) If a Guard finds a Church of the opposite sex that church automatically wins for their gender and the round is over. So, a Guard's best bet is to just roam the halls catching Followers and not look for Churches. The "Followers" try to find the opposite sexes Underground Church without being tagged by the Guards of the opposite sex or giving away where their Church is. If a Follower finds an Underground Church of the opposite sex that Churches gender looses and the round is over. No hiding with your Church for this game and followers may not barricade, block or detain the opposite sex at any time.    1:30 Free Time Gym, Youth or Activity Center Only   2:00 Food Num, Num! - Youth Center   2:30 Team Competition III Tolerance, Teamwork, Love   Beauty Both Ways Scoring: Loose 10 points for each instance of non-complacency   Needed: 4 shaving cream cans, 20 spoons, 20 bowls, 2 - 20 packs of washable markers Say: This is a test of tolerance.  We'll start with the girls sitting. The girls get to choose a boy to be their partner. The boys "shave" the girl's face with shaving cream and a spoon in less than 1 minute or the girls get to apply any remaining shaving cream to the boys face. The girls all get the shaving cream in one hand and at go apply it to their cheeks, chin and upper lip. Only after all the girls are lathered up will the boys 1 minute start. Next the boys sit down. The girls get 1 minute to apply "maker make-up" to the boys face using only real make up styles, colors may be non-traditional (No words or just scribbling, etc&ldots;) The boys may remain made up for the rest of the night if they choose. Give everyone a chance to wash off.   Feeder Fish Scoring: 40 points to the team with the fastest time Needed: lots of Swedish Fish, plastic spoons, one bowl  Set up: Set up a line of chairs, one for each two person team and only one gender at a time. Say: This is a test of teamwork. Genders will take turns and make same sex two-person teams. One person per team sits in a chair. The other person stands behind the chair. The person sitting places his or her hands on their hips. The person standing threads their arms under the seated person's armpits. We will place a bowl of Swedish Fish in one hand of the standing person on the first team and a new spoon in the other hand of all the other standing players. They will feed their partner at least one Swedish Fish with the spoon then pass the bowl & spoon on to the next team. The gender team with the fastest time wins.   Honey if You Love Me Scoring: 5 points per smile  Say: This is a love game and it's modified from a game many of you have played before. Every one sits in a circle with the same number of boys as girls. One boy and one girl stand in the center of the circle. They go to a member of the opposite sex and say, "Honey, if you love me please, please smile." The person they asked must respond, "Honey, I love you but I just can't smile". If they don't smile the asker can only try 2 more times. Whoever is asked is now out of the game - smile or no smile. They have either smiled (not scoring) or kept a straight face (scored for his or her gender). Once the asker is successful in making someone smile, he or she must pick a teammate to be the asker. There is no limit to how many times a player can be the asker, only not consecutively. The team with the most points is the winner.       3:30 Free Time Gym, Youth or Activity Center Only   4:00 Team Competition IV Flexibility, Balance, Size   All Tied Up Scoring: 20 points for each successful circle Say: This is a game of flexibility. Equal teams of boys and girls will gather near each other. The groups are going to get "all tied up" and try to get untied. Both teams will stand in a huddle close to each other and place their hands in the center of the group grabbing the hand of someone across the circle. Make sure you don't grab both hands of the same person. Without letting go of each other's hands try to untie the mess you created. Teams are not allowed to let go of each other. When each gender gets all untied they must be in one large circle to be eligible to score points. Two or more circles in one gender scores nothing. The first team untied and in one circle wins the points.   Spooning Scoring: First team done receives 40 points Needed: lots of cotton balls, lots of plastic spoons  Set up: Place cotton balls in a line on a table opposite relay teams. Give each player a plastic spoon to hold in his or her mouth. Say: This is a relay race about balance. Each team member will place a spoon in his or her mouth, run down, scoop up a cotton ball and bring it back to a team container with no hands the fastest. If the cotton ball falls on the floor a teammate may race out to help with the side of his or her foot used as a stop. The cotton ball may not be advanced on the floor.     Below Freezing Scoring: 40 points for each round Say: This is a game of size. Two girls and two guys will be chosen to be it. Whenever an "it" tags a player of the opposite sex, that player must remain frozen in place, with their feet wide apart. The frozen player can only be "unfrozen" if another player of their sex crawls between his or her legs! It's may not unfreeze, protect or block for their players. The last team with unfrozen players wins.   5:00 Movie Time Clean Flicks "Mr & Mrs Smith"   7:00 Go Home